yeah as topic says. for those in long term relationships well in relationsips in general. how do you keep that smile on your significant other?? wut do you do when things get kinda.....bleh...i just want and need your input. thanks!!!!

sang

umm lets see

we go to the drive in movies 1 time a year with the celica

dinner dates, trips to different places....
pretty much just get creative with things..

surprise her and make her sumthing, cook a really nice dinner
send her flowers (www.flowers.com) ect...

it's hard to answer that when i have no idea what you guys already do or don't do, or what you guys are into.....

give us some background i've been in a relationship for 4.5 years and he always keeps a smile on my face and makes me feel wonderful... but let us know some background on you guys and i'll help you out

well been together about 7 years. we used to do everything together. movies, dinner , miniture golf, all that good stuff. well we have an eight month old son now. its kinda hard to do stuff now. im tryin but everything isnt like what it used to be. things are okay but i dont want them to be just okay i want them to be great like it used to be. its kinda hard when u done things over and over time again. just need something new!!! we used to hit the club alot but not anymore. i dunno....lets hear some suggestions

sang




forgot to mention been married a lil over a year now

This post has been edited by LBCxGUY: Jan 19, 2006 - 1:00 PM

Find a baby sitter and leave town for a couple days.

cruise.........

my dad gives my mom flowers on my brother and i's bdays. i think thats a really good idea! i mean i know thats only a once a year thing for u but keep that in mind cuz without her youd have no children. :-D

yeah cruise and a trip for a couple days sounds good but our budget aint big rite now. about the flowers on my son bday sounds like a great idea. imma keep that in mind. good ideas and lets hear some more. really appreaciate ur help

sang

meh.

be spontanious i guess?

take a week off from everything and take your lady on a nice vacation..
do like a little road trip,bro... I drove my girl up north through yosemite, san francisco.. we had a blast.
sight seeing is always nice
i dunno... I would suggest getting away

its hard to take a week vacation when you have a baby and limited funds im sure...

do ur parents or hers live close? how about droppin the baby off at the grandparents house and just having a weekend of you two? dont run errands or any of that - just relax - rent some movies make dinner for her etc

u have 18 years ahead of having a child in the house - try get weekends available for you guys while you still can! :-D

Life without the kid = GOOD!!

Life with the kid= BADDD!!

Basically, your screwed once you have a kid. Freedom goes bye bye to parties and what not, or that fun time alone and what not.

your pretty much stuck with the kid, work, kid, sleep, and repeat, repeat, repeat, untill your kids are 18 and over then you finally get some freedom at last, but at that age of 50 or up you either dead or so old you don't feel like drag racing with some kids in there high tech equipped cars compared to your crappy EFI car.
Who knows what the future holds? It was from Carb to EFI, and now its gonna be Electric. They might even have EHB....*prononuce* ebb, or Electronic Hyper Stream Boost.

yah I wish I could give some advice buuuut ive never really had a serious relationship so I dunno

This post has been edited by amysmojo: Jan 19, 2006 - 2:29 PM

Life with a kid is good if not better than a life without a kid. Obviously depending who you ask but you just gotta change your life a bit to be able to keep that spark between u and ur wife...just my .02

do something totally off the wall that you know she would like but you've never done it before.

what are her passions/interests in life (besides you, of course!!;))??

make her feel like the princess she really is, just blow her away by doing something very spontaneous i'm sure she'll love it.

this might be inappropriate but i watch dr. phil sometimes, and believe it or not a good key to keeping a great relationship is to have good sex life, just for starters... but thats just what dr. phil said lol.

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.... YUP

my life with my kid is great. im happier then ever.i wake up to my lovely wife and kid every morning. i guess all the attention i use to give my wife isnt all there like it used to be. most of it goes to my son. i want to do something special for her. she is the love of my life but its not really showing rite now. i want to show her im sorry. someone told me this would happen but never thought it would. im trying now...no im doing it now slowly. i give more attention now than i did before so im workin on it. it'll take time...

sang




sex life?? i do whatever it takes to get the job done!! lol...

This post has been edited by LBCxGUY: Jan 19, 2006 - 3:26 PM

well is she a stay at home mom?

i say take all the responsibilities from her for a weekend and send her away with a friend or her sister or something!

or like i said drop the baby off with grandma and grandpa or a very close friend/sibling and have a weekend of just u two :-D

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yup for inappropriate or are you agreeing to what i said?

Go camping somewhere...

no we both work but i take care of my kid the majority of the time. im only working part-time thats why and i get sh!!tty scheduals. we got a baby sitter already so thats taken care of. well i gotta get ready for work thanks for all your replies. ill look foward to more replies to check on when i get home tonite. thanks for all ur help!!


sang



heres our lil family

Give her hot body oil massage baths too! WEOO!

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lol.. agreeing with you,bro

and dude, sang.. you've got a beautiful family there..
don't worry, you'll get through this

This post has been edited by Ryu3x16: Jan 19, 2006 - 4:22 PM

i gave up on relationships a long time ago..

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I am sure glad you aren't my dad.

I will tell you that spending time with my children is the most rewarding part of my life. Moms and Dads need breaks too but for the vast majority of my vacations I would much rather go on a week vacation with my kids than without them.

In terms of keeping the spark, I think make sure you: (1) listen to her closely; (2) empathize which she is emotional; (3) maintain eye contact when she is talking to you; (4) touch her in tender, non-sexual ways often; and (5) don't be a speedy gonzales in bed.

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I'm sure she is really happy to be with you b/c it sounds like you are a good, attentive Daddy. That is special to her at this stage in you marriage, so I am sure she is not thinking in her head that you are not giving her enough attention. Yeah, sounds like your focus has switched to the child, but isn't this natural, esp. at such a young age. I think things will get better, esp. as the child gets older and what not.

do something compleatly random, take advantage of that fack things are getting a little dull, like forget her birthday, may be hard if she reminds you all the time, but try and get her to think you forgot all about it then (if its a day she has to work) show up like right before her lunch at her work and take her away for the rest of the day, with or without the kid, (would have to plan with her boss, etc.) take her for a great drive, to a senic spot for a quite nice lunch, a walk, have a big plan for the rest of the day or even days if you can.

try and find out things about yourself that she knows (like little habbits or things you would never do) then do it, change it, let her know your not just setting into a gruve, and want to keep things interesting. chances are you know her better then anyone, so you really gata think about what she likes and go from there.

going on a romantic date is probalby the least exspensive date you can go on, because romance is not something you can buy, like a sunset walk, or a long drive though the senic backroads. however involving some flowers or a small teddy bear is always a plus.

Your married right, if you have videos of the wedding how about putting the baby to sleep one night, cuddling up on the couch, a few candels lit in the background, and watching em, with something light to eat.

chances are that regardless of the place, the time, or how much fun you have if you go the extra mile to show her a good time and that after all thoes years you still love her as much as the day you said "I Do" there is no way she would not be thrilled with you.

~ my 2 cents.....

This post has been edited by creis: Jan 22, 2006 - 2:51 AM

be completely unpredictable. Thats always worked for me, lol. For example, i was coming home from work the other night and called and asked my soon-to-be wife if she wanted me to pick her anything up to eat. She said she wasnt hungry, and i told her I was gonna get her something anywayz. She argued she didnt want anything. So i swung by Mcdonalds and ordered 20 cheeseburgers, and 10 orders of fries. The look on her face was absolutely hilarious but it did make her laugh, and we were both in a good mood the rest of the night. She didnt eat any of them though...so now we gotta fridge full of mcdonalds...lol...im just kind of a spontaneous person. (doing things like this does add up in $$ fast though, lol)

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